Intimidating women - Online sex
She wrote this in response to the cultural teaching that she should not do anything to emasculate a man -- do not be too ambition or successful.
If a woman is being mean, rude, inconsiderate, or unprofessional then say that, but calling a woman intimidating because her success, confidence, and/or intelligence makes you feel insecure isn't her issue. He and I were having a discussion about my reproductive health, as women of a certain age often do. " I responded, without my usual annoyance to such questions, "it's not that I don't want children it is more that the right partner and opportunity hasn't arisen and time is running out." He smiled and said "yes, it will be hard for you." I asked what he meant.He replied, "You are too smart." As in, too smart for most men. This is far from the first time I've heard this kind of comment.I paused to try to appreciate the back-handed compliment and then said, "Why? Although in this case I knew it was intended to be a compliment, but it was also an indictment of my intelligence, independence, personality and career." He said, "It will take a special kind of person for you to marry. It made what feels like an impossibility seem, well, even more impossible.They know who they are; they accept who they are; they love who they are.
If you happen to have an intimidating woman in your life, be grateful.
Study her ways, learn her attitude, and strive to have as much confidence in yourself as she has in hers. She moves to another country on little more than a whim and lives her life with a strong hint of chaos.
Then, I wondered, are men told that they are still single because they intimidate women? Just like people don't tell male leaders to smile more, to be quiet, or to be less aggressive.
Intimidating is just another buzzword for "stay in your place, lady." It's the message that to get and keep a man you can't be too smart, too good or too successful.
So, in the end I agree with my physician, it will take a special person -- one who knows that a woman's success isn't all about or a threat to him.
They aren’t scary, but their confidence comes off as uncomfortable.